Desperation loyalty is remaining loyal to a group or identity based on neediness or clinginess, often in violation of more important values. It is a place of stuckness that elevates loyalty to others above the commitment to grow. It’s relatively easy to spot this in other people. It’s harder to spot this in ourselves. If…

There’s a lot of talk about how supporting Trump may take down the Republican party. Perhaps that remains to be seen, but I wanted to do a little test within my own mind to see what I associate to each of these terms today, at least from a branding perspective. I was curious how the…

In my extended social circle, some people are calling for unity and healing now that Joe Biden will be the next President. Others aren’t so sure that healing is really what’s needed. The offer basically sounds like this: It’s time to repair the wounded relationships between the people who supported a lying, racist sociopath for…

So lots of people are asking: Why is the counting so slow in Nevada? I’ve lived in Nevada since 2004, so I was curious about this too. You’d think the home of Las Vegas would be superb at counting – money at least – and the population of the state is only about 3 million……

Four days ago I posted a simple obedience test. I’m still getting more responses each day, but it looks like the patterns have become clear enough to share what I’ve learned thus far. The basic idea was that I commanded people who read that post to read 5 more articles from my website on that…

Here’s my prediction for the U.S. election, which is just 4 days away… and also some predictions for what I think will happen in the months after that. I expect that Biden is going to win by a landslide and that it’s not even going to be close. Yes, Trump and the Republicans will continue…

Why do some people lie? One reason is that they don’t trust the receiver. They may be worried about a negative reaction to the truth. That’s an obvious answer but not really the deepest one. Perhaps a better answer is that a person lies to control the receiver. By withholding the truth and sharing something…

I mailed in my ballot on Friday. This is the first political election I’ve ever participated in. Here’s the first question filled out (not a difficult one): Voting for Biden / Harris for President was the only sane option given how hideous the other candidates are. You may not even recognize two of the candidates…

Which is better? To encourage someone to vote or to encourage them to be a voter? If you want the person to actually vote, encourage them to be a voter. It’s been found that this framing is more likely to lead to action. If you’d like to strengthen a behavior, weave it into your identity.…

Have you ever connected with someone who had strong preconceived notions about what your spiritual path should look like? Apparently there’s a rulebook for being spiritual, and you have to satisfy certain criteria for how you’re supposed to think, feel, and behave in order to consider yourself a spiritual person. You got the memo summarizing…