I can't express my feelings and thoughts, at all.

[ElleGee]

So here's the thing, I really have a hard time expressing my feelings and thoughts to people, especially to people I know more. I know it sounds weird, but I can express myself better with people I just met.

My life's sucking at the moment, my 'friends' at school dumped me, I don't know why, I have a hard time with friends out of school and I can't tell my parents. I wish I could change schools, but I can't seem to tell my parents anything.

Thank God I've got two week vacations before having to see those bxtches again, but I don't know who I'm going to talk to at school now. And I wish I could live anywhere but here. I've considered going to boarding school, since my brothers and my parents have a life here, and I don't think they'd be willing to move everything cause of me.

I need help on how to tell them that everything's wrong. So please help.

[nocturne]

what do you think is stoping you? what are you afriad of?

[Manomanman]

You seem to be expressing your thoughts and feelings pretty clearly in this thread. You sound frustrated, and pissed off.

I think you're thinking about your social relationships in a disempowering way - i.e. that your friends dumped you, that you somehow needed them, and that they have taken something away from you by disavowing you.

I would encourage you to think about relationships in a subjective realist way; you have no idea what the objective story of your relationship to them is, but you do know that they aren't doing anything for your reality but bring it down.

So ignore them and find new friends.

There's plenty of stuff on this website about becoming more extroverted (search for that keyword).

[ElleGee]

It's easier for me to express myself by writing. And as I said it's easier for me to express to people I don't know a lot or at all, than to people I've been knowing my whole life.

And I don't even know why my 'friends' dumped me, I just know they did, and I do have other friends, they are just not the type of people I hang out with. I don't know if you understand. I like them, but they're not the type of people I hang out with.

Thanks for the responses.

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by ElleGee

It's easier for me to express myself by writing. And as I said it's easier for me to express to people I don't know a lot or at all, than to people I've been knowing my whole life.

And I don't even know why my 'friends' dumped me, I just know they did, and I do have other friends, they are just not the type of people I hang out with. I don't know if you understand. I like them, but they're not the type of people I hang out with.

Thanks for the responses.

Same happeded to me at one point. People I thought were friends dumped me. Made for a very very not nice school year.
Trust me that his will pass... later you will see how this has only made you stronger and a surviver.

To tell your parents.. why not write them a letter. Write it without the intent to let them read it and when you are happy about it, print it out.

Also include how you want them to respond. Do you just want them to know, but not talk about it? Do you want to talk about it with just your mom? Or just your dad..? Let them know how they can help you.


If you don´t know who to talk to at school, don´t talk to anybody. Learn, read, study... make your year worthwhile with something else than friends, you will find new ones, I guarantee you!!

Good luck and you will survive this as well, and you will be so much stronger because of it.

[wolverine]

First of all, *hugs*. I was where you are now, I know how tough it can be. However, the truth is: this too shall pass. Don't panic.

Onto helpful suggestions: why do you feel you can't talk to your parents? Do you think they'll be hurtful when you expose your true feelings? Do you feel they'll take advantage of you? Do you feel like they wouldn't try to help? There are some parents like this, sadly, but most aren't. Look at the pasts -- if they haven't treated you like that before, and they're not going through tough times themselves, they're not likely to treat you badly now. So talk to them, whether verbally or through some other method (writing, maybe through someone else -- I went to a counsellor who insisted on speaking to my parents, which made me panic so much I almost fainted, but it did make the situation better in the end). Oh, and I changed schools, too. I just said 'I hate the school I'm at now, this is why I think this other school would be better - reason 1, reason 2 etc - so can I change?'. I changed from a high-fee to a low-fee school: it would be pretty tough convincing parents for the other way around, I'd think.

On the friends side, work out what you want in friends. Do you want someone to chat to? Someone to share deep secrets with? Someone to go running with? Someone to huddle close to when it's winter and freezing and the teachers kick you outside? Now, and I think you'll hate me but I'll say it anyway -- bring these kind of friends into your life. Visualise, go to odd things like clubs or events, talk to people in other year levels, anything.

Good luck. I know it's possible, so therefore you can do it.

Wolverine.

[Alexjstrandberg]

It only requires a little courage to push through your fears of expressing yourself to others. It's a fear and the only way around a fear is through it. It will be scary at first but eventually (if you continue to do so) it will become much easier and like second nature.

As for your friends dumping you, it hurts but it's for the best. When you are growing spiritually and emotionally you will go through grow pains the same as you would with growing physically. These times can be painful but necessary to get rid of things in your life that aren't best for your own growth.

Many of my friends have unexpectedly falling out of my life. It was very very strange but looking back on my growth it was very helpful to me.

[looser]

hi as this is my 1st post i would like to ask to something i cant express my views in a proper manner to the another person....in a rt. way then there creats somes misunderstanding or what i dont no....and i have a arguments then later {sometimes} only i cant pt. out the exact pt...or topic....by the time i do alll this we had a quarrel....i hope u r getting my pt. of view ....and i am able to make u understand my prob....why this always happens wit me....

[looser]

Originally Posted by looser

hi as this is my 1st post i would like to ask to something i cant express my views in a proper manner to the another person....in a rt. way then there creats somes misunderstanding or what i dont no....and i have a arguments then later {sometimes} only i cant pt. out the exact pt...or topic....by the time i do alll this we had a quarrel....i hope u r getting my pt. of view ....and i am able to make u understand my prob....why this always happens wit me....

[ginkgo]

The law requires you to express your feelings so if you do not, then you are going to prison next week. Just kidding. See my point? You do not have to do that. Wherever you go, your worst enemy is there. That is you! But you can be best friends with yourself and then where you, your best friend is there.

That is why you are alive. To discover just how wonderful that you are and that you do not need anything from anyone. Socrates said "Express your feelings!" No, I am just kidding. Socrates said "Know theyself." Enlightenment and Happiness

[CroMagna]

What are you gonna do if you go to boarding school and the same thing happens? Or you're able to move and the same thing happens?

I would just try to ignore those friends and make new ones. But ask your parents. Just say exactly what you said here. Are you afraid they won't be understanding?